#RHOBH #Puppygate

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Wow! What a crazy first half of season 9, huh? Although the theme so far has been about whether or not Lisa Vanderpump was responsible for making it known to the public that a puppy that Dorit Kemsley adopted from Vanderpump Dogs ended up in a kill shelter, despite the fact that Dorit signed a contract that would fine her $5,000 if it wasn’t returned to Vanderpump Dogs should the puppy not work out.

Dorit claimed that she gave the puppy (called Lucy Lucy Apple Juice) to a trusted friend after the puppy had been bitten both her child and husband, P.K.

It is the opinion of many viewers that Dorit didn’t return Lucy back to Vanderpump Dogs out of embarrassment of the fact that it was actually the second puppy from Vanderpump Dogs that didn’t work out. I completely agree with this.

Shame on Dorit and P.K. for being not so great friends and also being careless with the life of a puppy by not honoring the contract that THEY signed and returning the dog back to Vanderpump Dogs.  Also shame on Lisa and Ken Todd for not holding them accountable for their actions.  What was the point of them signing a contract at all then? Apparently, if you’re a friend of Lisa Vanderpump and Ken Todd, you can adopt a puppy from Vanderpump Dogs, NOT return it after it doesn’t work out and NOT get charged the fine of $5,000 like the contract you signed says. Good to know.

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Unfortunately for Lisa Vanderpump, the focus this season hasn’t been on the fact that Dorit and P.K. were wrong for what they did, but instead focused on whether or not Lisa leaked the story to the press as a way of getting back at them for being careless with Lucy Lucy Apple Juice.

Do I think LVP did it? It’s definitely possible. She does have a history of manipulating situations and making it seem like she had nothing to do with it, no matter how hard she or some of the show’s viewers deny it.  They didn’t let us forget it this season either, with the constant play backs of people getting upset at Lisa, “you told me to say this and then you back out and leave me hanging…” Obviously those aren’t exact the words of anyone, just the gist of what you’ll find in those play backs of LVP’s puppeteering over the years. I just watched an interview today on Bravo.com where she was asked about the manipulation thing and she answered the question exactly how I pictured she would,

“Let me ask you this, how, if you’re a smart woman,  well hypothetically, let’s say they’re all smart women….how could you possibly be manipulated?”

She doesn’t flat out say, “No, I have never manipulated anyone…” because she knows that she has. BUT! to play devil’s advocate here a little bit, LVP is 100% correct. What smart woman would allow herself to be manipulated into doing someone else’s dirty work? Just because LVP guides you in a certain direction doesn’t mean you have to do it and if you are one of those people who can allow themselves to be manipulated into doing someone else’s dirty work then you deserve all the repercussions for your participation. LVP didn’t hold a gun to their heads, they were just being stupid. Period.

If I can give any kind of credit when it comes to this is I think she’s trying to make a good show.”-Lisa Rinna

I agree with Rinna here. Thank you LVP for giving us a great show to watch! Haha.

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Now onto the latest person who claims she was manipulated by LVP….Teddi Mellencamp. Teddi feels that LVP used her to get the story out about Dorit. Is it true? Perhaps but again…no one held a gun to Teddi’s head to make her do the things she did against Dorit. She did that all on her own. I love that she at least owned it though. In the same interview video I watched where I quoted the other ladies above, I grabbed this one from Teddi, “….the story getting out isn’t really the story. It’s the constant behavior of repeatedly doing everything you can (she’s talking about LVP) to make others look bad so you can look good…”

I definitely agree that THIS is what the theme of the season so far, especially with the play backs of Camille, Kyle, Brandi, and Lisa Rinna all talking about LVP’s manipulating behavior over the years. Even the clip of Adrienne accusing LVP of leaking a story.

I have to admit though, when I see a few of the other ladies getting so much hate on Twitter for DARING to go against LVP and THINK she would do such a thing, it’s just not fair WHEN THERE’S CLEARLY A HISTORY of this behavior by her. Doesn’t mean she is guilty this time of course but come on!

I feel that like LVP has high expectations of her friends, she could also learn some lessons in being a good friend. It’s clear to me that in LVP’s world, your friend needs to stick by your side, even when you’re 100% wrong or they’re not your friend. It definitely explains why LVP didn’t hold Dorit accountable and charge her $5,000 for her role in puppygate. How’s that, “I can do no wrong and you can do no wrong as my good friend…” thing working out for you, LVP? Moral of the story is true friends should be able to point out flaws in each other and still keep their friendships in tack if the one offending just owns it, baby!

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I’ll end this blog post by saying this: I would like to remind the people sending these women hate tweets that this is a TV SHOW. They are allowing cameras to follow them around so that we can be entertained by the drama…..and we love it, don’t we? I think some of you could tone it down with the hate tweets. These are HUMAN BEINGS. They certainly have their flaws just like you do.  I may love certain housewives more than others but I don’t hate a single one of them. They all bring something very special to the table, let’s be honest. I never send hate tweets to anyone aside from Trump, personally…even with him usually nothing more than an eye roll gif or me comparing him to a bag of Cheetos. LOL!

Okay, I’m out, lovelies! I look forward to the second half of #RHOBH

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Be Happy With Your Job…

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Hey, beautiful people! I know it’s been quite some time since I’ve posted on here! It’ll be that way sometimes because I don’t like to post anything here unless it’s something that could possibly be helpful to someone else.

Today’s message is simply about being happy where you work. You current job, even if it’s not your forever job needs to make you happy!  I was on a group page today for this podcast I listen to and a woman on there asked the group: “does anyone have a job they really love?” She then proceeded to talk about everything going on with her job that she hates, etc. Another woman responded to her in the comments by asking her if she even likes her job aside from all the bad stuff happening and the original poster said, “No…”

Here was my response in the comments:

M*****a is asking an important question actually. Here comes a novel but there’s an important point to it that I hope will help anyone who reads it… I’ve been working in food/beverage jobs since I was 17. I am now 34. For the first time in my entire working career, I’m happy with the job I have, the people I work with and even my boss is literally PERFECT. I actually manifested it while on a job hunt about three months ago. I was jobless for 2 months after quitting this sucky ass job as a prep cook at this place where the management were just shady as fuck and I couldn’t take it any more. I have 10 plus years of cooking experience but what I realized very recently is, even though there are great parts about being a line cook, I’ve actually never been a big fan of it. When you don’t like what you do, that spills over into everything and more often than not, your whole experience will suck ass and it will continue where ever you go. The one job I’ve ever had that I actually found pretty chill before becoming a line cook for the first time is being a dishwasher. That’s right. WASHING DISHES. As a dishwasher, depending on where you work, it’s great because you’re in your own little corner, not being bothered, you can bump your music and your biggest worry is getting all the dishes washes and cleaning up when you’re done. I now work at a yacht club that is by the bay, the chef cooks us a meal every day and I can sit by the water before work and during my lunch. I work full time hours, the people are kind, people bring in donuts every day, the servers bring us soda to the kitchen if we need….everything is perfect. I’ve never experienced this before and my vibrations are so high and I’m so happy. This is the place I will work until I’m able to work from home some day. I said to myself, “please, universe, just let this job I get be something I will like with nice people and everything I could ever want.” Boom. I manifested it. Moral of the story is, really think about what it is you want to do for your “right now” job. You deserve to be happy there too.

So that’s my message for today. If you’re not happy where you are, get the hell out as soon as you can. Don’t stay where you aren’t happy. It can backfire in ways you would not expect, trust me. You are allowed to be happy where you work. Really think about the kind of work you like that will keep you sane. For me, dishwashing is the closest thing to getting paid to NOT work as you can get so it’s my kind of job. LOL.  It’s easy and it’s also cool seeing your arms getting stronger over time for lifting stacks of plates ;-).

Because I’m happy with my job, I’m happier. Suddenly, I want to be healthier and am eating better, taking my vitamins. Suddenly I’m putting more effort into my hair bow business these days and am getting more views and sales in my shop….trust me, things fall into place when you take care of YOU. Something to think about…byyyeee…

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Go See #BlackPanther Now!

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Hey, beautiful people! I just wanted to give my thoughts on the movie and I promise I won’t give away too many details because you must go see it for yourself!

I wasn’t expecting Black Panther to give me feelings that were any different from any of the Avengers movies, Iron Man movies, Captain America movies etc., etc. but in fact, it did.

As a black woman, I never had plans of going to see this movie because it’s the first black super hero Marvel has given us (as awesome as that is!). I just wanted to go and enjoy another bad ass Marvel super hero movie. As it turned out, as I sat there in the theater and watched the movie, my inner being felt so much love from seeing a MARVEL movie featuring a BLACK super hero, with nearly a full BLACK cast of people playing these amazing characters!…and to sit there and enjoy this movie with a bunch of strangers of all races and nationalities…such a beautiful feeling!

I highly recommend this movie to anyone reading this right now. You have a black king and super hero, you have strong women warriors who are total bad asses right along side him, you have villains who make you laugh (one especially!) and most importantly, make sure you stay a little after the credits start rolling because the Black Panther gives an important, loving message to the human race <3.

Go and see it and come tell me what you think! Thanks for reading!…

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What Is Sleep Paralysis?

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I’m sure that by now, many of us have either heard of and/or experienced sleep paralysis. I’m guilty on both counts. Here is an interesting video that a friend shared on Facebook today…

…and another great video on the subject from one of the greatest YouTube channel’s I’ve ever come across, Top5s…

For years, I never really had a clear understanding of what causes sleep paralysis because I’ve heard of many different explanations.

The first explanation I ever heard was from a psychic medium named Sylvia Browne, who used to be on the Montel Williams show every Wednesday (remember, back in the day, fellow Americans?). I was a kid and I have no idea why I still remember this but I remember an audience member standing up and telling Sylvia about her sleep paralysis experience and wondering what caused it. Sylvia told the woman that when we have sleep paralysis, it’s because while we sleep, our spirits leave our bodies (to do what? I wonder???) and when they return, sometimes sleep paralysis can occur just as our spirits are re-entering our bodies. Sounds insane, right? Hey, I’m just the messenger. Haha.

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During my very first sleep paralysis episode 10 years ago, I saw an image (eyes closed) of a woman’s torso going into my body over and over again, as if she was on a wheel or something, entering my body, going through it and under my bed and re-entering. She was wearing a Victorian style dress (white with black accents) and that was all I saw going into my body…not even her face. That image was accompanied by the sound of a train on train tracks. I remember being so scared because I felt like I was being held down and had trouble breathing and I couldn’t even scream. It was terrifying!

After that scary experience, I obviously wanted to know what the hell happened to me and why. One of the first videos I came across on YouTube mentioned that visiting a psychic can cause one to have sleep paralysis. It apparently opens some kind of portal. This struck a nerve with me because I had, in fact, very recently made a visit to a psychic for the first time. I took a mental note of that as a possible answer and moved on with my life.

I’ve experienced sleep paralysis probably about 5 or 6 times after the first time over the last 10 years. The scariest part is when you feel like you can’t breathe properly. Although I did have an experience where I saw a vision (eyes closed) of a devil hovering over me and smiling in my face as he held me down.

Another time, while I experiencing sleep paralysis while sleeping on my stomach, I definitely felt FINGERS pressing down on my upper back, shoulder area which was very creepy. What kind of shit is this, where sleep paralysis can make you feel someone else’s fingers on your body??? Strange stuff.

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While I am more on the side of believing that the cause of sleep paralysis has to do with stress, depression, anxiety, etc. (I was always dealing with stressful situations during the times I had sleep paralysis, so it makes sense), I do also believe that there are other factors that can come into play when it comes to people feeling like they’re being held down in their beds at night, struggling to breathe. For example, if a person is living in a haunted house, there’s a chance that they’re experiencing something that’s a little less sleep paralysis and a little more of a not-so-nice spirit trying to get their attention. And who knows? Perhaps there is some type of sleep paralysis portal that can open up after visiting a psychic for one reason or another?

There are so many possible causes that very well could be true for anyone but there is one solution that could help with each cause and that is to simply do your best to take care of yourself always. Sometimes when we are going through stressful situations, for some reason, it just brings on more of the bad and sometimes, sleep paralysis can come into play. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep and all that other good stuff you need.

Feel free to do your own research on sleep paralysis to find out more and even how you can stop it…or at least mostly stop it. Okay, this concludes my random post on sleep paralysis. Haha. Byyyeeee!

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You’re A Badass At Making Money (Book)

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I recently finished this book on audio (I’ve never been much of a reader, I’d rather listen) and if you’re into the law of attraction and into improving your relationship with money, I highly recommend this book.

The author, Jen Sincero, does an amazing job at keeping your vibrations high as you receive the information and at the end of each chapter, there are money manifesting writing activities you can participate in to help get and keep yourself on track and on your way to a better you for a better life.

She expresses the importance of knowing your worth when it comes to your business among other things. She tells us some awesome law of attraction success stories about different people at the end of each chapter as well.

My big take away from this book would be that it’s important to REALLY think about how you feel about money and how you treat it. If you can get to a place to where you feel confident about the greatness money can bring to you then you are on the right track.

If you’re interested, you can purchase the book at Amazon.com here….

Take care, folks!….

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You Can Be Your Own Photographer

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So you need to get some pictures done but you don’t have enough cash to pay a photographer at the moment? It’s okay! I’m here to give you a little inspiration to get the job done on your own. All you need is a digital camera, a wonderful location and some imagination.

It was about 4 years back and my little sister, Anna, was a senior in high school. The time came for her to get her senior pictures done. It’s understandable that these days, the kids want their pictures to be professional. They want to feel good while getting their photos taken and they want to NOT feel as though their pictures will end up looking like this…

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To be fair, I’ll post one of me as well. Here’s me with my other sister, Jennifer, in the 90s….

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I brushed my eyebrows like that because I thought it looked, “cool”. Oh boy…

Anyway, when the time came for my sister Anna to get her pictures done, she wasn’t really feeling the place her dad took her to so, big sis to the rescue! I grabbed my digital camera and we got to work!

Before I give you some tips, I’ll show you the final product…

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I think the picture turned out lovely and Anna looks lovely too. Not bad for my first time being a wanna be photographer and photoshoot hair stylist ;-).

Find a beautiful location that inspires you. Get creative with the clothing, accessories and props. My sister chose a simple black dress to wear but you could easily take it up a notch and hit up some local thrift shops and come up with an amazing look that makes you look like a fashion model. Think outside of the box and maybe grab some things that you wouldn’t usually wear. Add something ugly to the look even (think runway models and the strange outfits we see them in). I flipped a bit of her hair to the side, picked some flowers and berries I found in nature, tied them together and secured them onto her hair with the help of bobby pins.

For fun, today, I picked out some fun flowers and leaves to give you even more inspiration of the beauty you can add to hair, a hat or simply a prop for the hands.

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What if you did a hairstyle like this?….

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Or bold make up like this?…

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Or an outfit like this?…

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Imagine this guy wearing a nice suit instead, standing there looking like James Bond or something. That would be awesome!

Experiment with different looks, locations and poses and take lots and lots of photos so that you have choices! I took another picture of Anna with her hair pulled back and she’s holding the flowers in one hand instead. We had no choice but to go with this one, with the flowers in the hair, the messy hair flip and unique placement of the hands.

Last but not least, when you’ve selected the winning photo/s, get them printed some place like Wal Mart or even do it yourself at home if you know how.

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No matter what the occasion is that you need professional photos done for, just know that thinking outside of the box when you’re low on cash will help get you some amazing results that you’ll be happy with, proud of and that others will envy you for ;-). I wish I had thought of this for myself for my senior picture! I’m sitting here staring at my boring senior photo that took place inside a studio with a boring blue, grey marbled looking background. Haha. Oh well, there are many more pictures I can take in the future if I want to.

That’s all I needed to say today. I hope I inspired someone! Until next time…

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Unicorn Hair Bow Holder Tutorial

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Hey, beautiful people! The above image was my inspiration for today’s project. We are making a cute little unicorn head, mane and all, for you to clip your cute little hair bows and clips on! Here’s what you’ll need:

*Two pieces of felt in the color of your choice. I want my unicorn to be white.

*Marker for drawing.

*Cotton stuffing.

*Scissors.

*Hot glue gun (with glue…duhhh).

*Paint to paint the eyes, nose and mouth if you wish.

*Tulle and ribbon of whatever colors you want for the mane.

*Anything else you can think of to decorate your unicorn with.

Okay, let’s get started…

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Step One: Using any unicorn inspiration you find online (I’ll be using the first unicorn up top),  draw the outline of your unicorn. Here’s the best I was able to do….

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Step Two: Take your other piece of felt and place it behind the first one and cut out your unicorn head and then you’ll have two (one of mine isn’t white but it doesn’t matter, it’ll be the back). Flip over your top piece to hide those marker lines on the edges…

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Step Three: Now it’s time to glue these two pieces together so that we can stuff the unicorn with cotton stuffing. Plug in your hot glue gun. Glue a little by little (be careful not to burn yourself), making sure both pieces are lined up nicely and most importantly, leave a section un-glued so that you can put the stuffing inside. Like so…

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Step Four: Stuff your unicorn as much or as little as you want before gluing it shut completely and you will have this…

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Step Five: Now it’s time to bring this unicorn to life! You can paint on it’s features or get creative and do it another way. For example, I used a dark brown button and a little flat back pearl for the eye. Next, I took my paint and added my finishing touches and ended up with this…

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Step Six: Time for the fun part. Let’s give this baby some hair. I used hot glue for this part again but this is where it can get dangerous. Use a a plastic lid or anything you can think of to help you press the tulle down into the hot glue safely. Or just curse your way through it like I do. LOL.

Start up near the top near his ears. Give him some bangs and then work your way down. Place a dabs of glue, not on the front, but on the back side of the unicorn. That way the hair waterfalls up and over to the front side that we see head on.

Do this for as many times as you want, top to bottom until he has enough tulle hair. For fun, I added some ribbon as well.  Here is the finished product…

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Step Seven: I topped my unicorn off with a black and white polka dot bow and for the horn, I had this stiff glitter material that I got on a roll at Hobby Lobby. I don’t know the proper name of it, sorry. You could use a glitter foam sheet as well (I usually see them near the felt in craft stores) or you could also upcycle a piece of cardboard and cut it into a shape of a unicorn horn and paint it in multiple colors and sprinkle some glitter over it and let it dry. Anything you can think of will work great for the horn. Glue your unicorn horn on where ever you think looks best.

Step Eight: Glue on ribbon or yarn on the back so that you can hang up your creation. Take advantage of that beautiful unicorn’s mane and clip on hair clips, hair bows and even stick earrings through the tulle….and enjoy!

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I hope you all enjoyed this tutorial! Use your imagination and think of other cool things you can make using the same techniques you’ve learned here! Okay, byyyeeee…

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